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Online dating and Network Marketing


It's been a long time, I shouldna left you! ๐Ÿ˜‚ only certain music fans will get that reference!



So honestly my mojo has been all over the place this month. Mainly due to the fact that's it's my birthday soon and my routine is outta the window PLUS my hormones have been all over the place...keeping a handle on adulting, being a husky Mum and a woman (with all the complicated spikey AND smooth edges that entails) has been an interesting couple of weeks for sure.


I was literally sat the other day reading a message from someone who I really, really like and admire. A wonderful kind hearted, lovely woman who had been asking questions about my business and definitely was looking to earn some extra money......then she ghosted me.


Now don't get me wrong, I usually give this situation not even a second thought. It's part and parcel of a NWM business, people are all enthusiastic, love the idea of what we are doing but when it comes to jumping in they go cold. Why - FEAR. People get scared of something new.


  • It won't work

  • It's a pyramid scheme

  • My sister/friend/neighbours best friends dog walker did it and failed

  • People will laugh

  • Not the right time

  • I don't have the money.....the excuses we give are endless.


So what do I usually do? I make a note in my diary to check in with her in the future and just make sure she's OK. If she still ghosts me again; that's all good. I will be on to the next exciting part of my life and it's possible this lovely lady, will still be in the same rut she is in now. Nothing will have changed, because she has changed nothing. She's still a good person, kind, clever but the truth is she's not actually fully aware of what she's saying NO to right now.


It made me think about the couple of months last year that I dipped my 'middle aged toe' into the murky world of Online Dating....but it also made me realise how similar NWM and Online dating are....and how 2 years ago I would had been utterly crushed by some of the responses I have received in both Dating and NWM.


So let's list them out;


Dating scenario - Someone looks amazing online, they tick all the boxes...Image, Personality, Common Interests they reply to your initial message with interest, then they ghost you.


NWM scenario - Someone looks amazing online, they tick all the boxes...Image, Personality, Common Interests they reply to your initial message with interest, then they ghost you.


Dating Scenario - You get chatting, it seems you have a lot in common, you arrange to meet to see if there are sparks. They either don't turn up, or say they've been delayed and cancel on you at the last minute.


NWM Scenario - You get chatting, it seems you have a lot in common, you arrange to meet to chat about what you do. They either don't turn up, or say they've been delayed and cancel on you at the last minute.


Dating Scenario - You've met up and there have been 'sparks'. You're thinking, this is the One, they like me, I like them. You had an awesome first date, they asked all the right questions, so did you and you left promising to meet again soon. Then they ghost and block you.


NWM Scenario - You've met up (or zoomed) for a business chat. You're thinking, this is the One, My Rock Star! They are going to smash this business. You had an awesome first meeting, they asked all the right questions, so did you and you left promising to meet again soon. Then they ghost and block you.


Dating Scenario - You've been seeing each other a little bit. You soon realised that the way they came across initially, wasn't the real them and they just don't want to do the work needed to have an equal relationship. You are doing all the messaging, asking if they are ok. They barely message you and when they do they are always too busy to talk and you feel like they are trying to get you off the phone/text asap. So you just leave them to it and don't bother messaging them anymore, as it feels like you are chasing them. If they want this, they will be in touch.


NWM Scenario - You've been sending your new Business Partner messages a fair bit. You soon realised that the way they came across initially, wasn't the real them and they just don't want to do the work needed to have a business that will earn them the money you spoke about as an initial goal. You are doing all the messaging, asking if they are ok. They barely message you and when they do they are always too busy to talk and you feel like they are trying to get you off the phone/text asap. So you just leave them to it and don't bother messaging them anymore, as it feels like you are chasing them. If they want this, they will be in touch. If not you will still be there for them as a friend.


It's not always a negative ending, don't worry....



Dating Scenario - It's all going well! The sparks are there, you both put in the effort. You look forward to their dates, calls, texts. It's fun and doesn't feel one sided at all, as spending time with them makes you happy. It's like any good relationship, mutually beneficial as you are both totally on the same page. You won't take them for granted and you will keep putting in the work to keep things fresh and exciting and also make sure they know you will always be there for them. Yes things will change, that's inevitable and expected. You enjoy the time you have together, making plans for the future and living for the now.


NWM Scenario - It's all going well! The sparks are there, you both put in the effort. You look forward to your coaching calls, calls, texts. It's fun and doesn't feel like work! It's like any good relationship, mutually beneficial as you are both totally on the same page. You won't take them for granted and assume they will always do this but you will keep putting in the work to keep things fresh and exciting and also make sure they know you will always be there for them. Yes things will change, that's inevitable and expected. You enjoy the time you have together, helping them set their goals for the future.



So, what I'm saying is this. If I hadn't had started a Network Marketing Business, I would have found it way harder to accept that some dates/potential business partners will be rejecting me. It would have been upsetting, I might have taken it to heart as something personal. I wouldn't have done the work on myself and on my mindset to accept that you can't control outcomes, you can only control the way in which to react to a given situation.


Not everyone is going to like you, your face, your personality, your body, the product you are selling or the business you are in. But that's ok as you aren't here to make everyone happy.


You are here to find your person/people.

The ones that do get you.

Do click with you.

They don't need to be chased or constantly have their egos stroked, persuaded to go on dates/meetings....they will want to spend time with you because you JUST CLICK. And when you do CLICK it's worth every single crappy date!


The issue is, you may have to kiss A LOT of frogs OR prospect A LOT of people that don't like you or what you represent, to find the handful of people that you can help and that you can have a long term lasting relationship with.




Good luck and much love x

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